Pregnant professionals—think twice before you believe these myths


Pregnant professionals

Pregnant women have trouble concentrating:  

Actually many women report feeling incredible mental clarity and prowess during pregnancy (even while vomiting) so don’t buy into the stereotype that pregnant women are emotional basket cases who can’t complete a thought.

Once you lay eyes on your new baby you will not feel the same dedication to work:

This is only partially true because what is ALSO true is that once you are home for twelve weeks of excruciatingly repetitious, sleepless, thankless, monotonous but somehow delightful baby care you will probably appreciate your job (or former job) like never before.

Pregnancy is the worst time to take a career risk:  

This kind of thinking is a symptom of what I call “hunker-down syndrome” and I blame our World War Two, Great Depression-traumatized relatives for giving it to us (bless their hearts.) Pregnancy (vs. post-pregnancy) is a time of renewed focus and a fine time to make changes in career—especially if you not going to stay at that particular company in the long term. Go ahead, search for something new if you are moved to do so.

It’s best to keep your pregnancy a secret at work:  

This depends completely on the relationship you have with people at work. If you are a “sharer” then not telling co-workers can seem like a breach or a lie—yes even though it’s personal information. If, however, you have always been a very private person at work then you’re not telling is consistent with the work version of who you are.

If you are pregnant your husband’s career should move into a “protected status”:   

If your spouse is a man than he likely already has more career leverage than you do which means he can actually take more risks. Don’t automatically throw your career into the “disposable” category because it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Try to keep the aspects of your career that you want to keep—it’s better if everyone gives a little instead of you giving all.

Take what you can get because most maternity leave is unpaid:

Everything is negotiable—even maternity leave. You probably have more leverage than you think.

Reduced hours at work mean less pay:  

Not if you learn to think like the clever woman I know you are. Without people companies really only have one thing—MONEY. Here is a formula: find a way to give them what they need and they will give you money.


Brenda’s new book, What’s Your Lane?  Career clarity for moms who want to work a little, a lot or not at all is now available for moms in career-question mode. Brenda Abdilla is the founder of Management Momentum LLC and a PCC level Professional Certified Coach, a distinction shared by less than 35% of all coaches worldwide. Through coaching, workshops, programs and assessments, Brenda helps men and women all over the world confidently choose the path that’s right for them. As a wife, mother and business owner, Brenda understands the temptation to dutifully don the superwoman cape and try to be all things to all people. Her message to women is this: Relax. Take a closer look. You’re too hard on yourself. Question everything you’re supposed to do, choose your lane, roll down the windows and enjoy the ride. You can sign up for her Momma Minute newsletter at to get savvy tips for today's mom.

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